Secondhand Smoke Stories
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The early morning phone call message was short and direct: "Sally died last night:"
My mom is a big smoker, 3-4 packs a day. My children often stay
at her house, but she refuses to quit smoking around them, she acts like
she doesn't even care. My son has had many respiratory problems since he
was born and the more I think about it, the more I relate it to her
smoking, even though he only sees her once a week or so. I am thinking
about telling her that the children will not be allowed to come over to
her house unless she quits smoking around them. But I know she'll get
all huffy and puffy and mad at me. But I know this is something I have
to do for their sake. Why do some people act like they don't even care
about these kids' health??
My 14 year old son's mother (we're divorced) smokes in the car and home around my son. My son has asthma, and when he is with me he is healthy. When he's with his Mom he has asthma, bronchitis and frequent infections. I had a "smoke free home" clause put in our custody order for our son in the divorce court oder, but she persists in smoking around him anyway. As a final step before taking her back to court on this, I am sending my son to her home with a gas mask that he intends to wear when he is around her. She has tried to quit before, but failed. My son supports her quitting. I'm hoping these nudges will help her quit for good (or at least get her to use nicotine gum/patch when my son is with her).
I have three step daughters. My husband has full custody of the girls, but they have visitation with their mother. Our home is a smoke free environment but hers is not. She and her husband both smoke and allow others to smoke in their home too. The girls are there every other weekend, and although everyone smokes in the "back room" while they are there, the children are still exposed. I tried telling "Mom" that just 1 cigarette lasts in a room for a long time, but she said it was her house and she would do what she wanted. These 3 girls have allergies, and one has severe asthma. I am angry at the fact that some parents just don't care, and even more upset that no law has been passed in my state that would classify this as child abuse.
My Mom smokes in front of whomever she wants. I try to stop her but it's no use she'll just yell at me. So I stopped trying to ask her to stop.
My ex-husband and I divorced when our son was 1 years old. At that time, smoking was not allowed in our home and my son's health was fine. Once we divorced, his father resumed smoking and that's when the trouble with my son's ears started. My son is 3 years old now and on his second set of ear tubes and has had his annoides removed. My son gets sick whenever he goes to his dad's- he always comes back with ear infections. (Besides his dad who smokes, there are also 3 other people living in the home who smoke too) My son has mild hearing loss in the left ear. I know it is the smoking. The solid proof that proved it, was this past October. Oct. 23 my son had a hearing test and the tubes were open and clear, then on November 2nd he went to his dad's for a week. On Nov. 13 was his next hearing test and it came back saying that both ears were flat and his next test said he had fluid in his ears again. His dad won't stop- I need help! I don't know what to do!
My aunt and uncle smoke in front of their child. I have tried and tried to get them to stop. The doctor now wants to have the child's adenoid and tonsel removed. They still don't believe it is caused by second hand smoke.
My mom has smoked forever - even when she was pregnant with me, and just recently my Dad has started smoking. I can't stand it! I can't breathe, it makes my nose hurt, I cough and I smell terrible. I play soccer and I have to stop constantly because I can't breathe. It doesn't just effect me, it hurts my brother too. Why would they smoke when they know it hurts us? How can she tell us not to smoke while she sits there blowing the smoke in our face? And why won't she smoke in her room, but will smoke in the living room?
My mother smokes and seems to be okay, but I think if she stopped she'd feel a lot better about herself. All of her friends smoke and I kid with them about how they are killing me with secondhand smoke, but they just tell me to go somewhere else. I really want my Mom to quit!!!
I grew up with parents who smoked cigars and cigarettes. Since I've had a head injury, I get very dizzy and get headaches at home when someone smokes. I live in a condo that is connected to a smoker. Her smoke comes into my home through the walls - I'm in hell!
My mother has been smoking since she was a teen. Almost every morning, she wakes me up practically coughing her brains out. Why do people smoke? I really do feel sorry for her deep down but... she could end it if she really wanted to.
I grew up with a smoking parent, so I know how living with a smoker affects a child's health and self-esteem. To me, it seems as if my father's addiction was more important to him than his family's health, and I still have the asthma and allergies that were worsened when he smoked around me. I have also worked as a Respitory Technician, and I heard similar stories from many family members who sadly watched a loved one dying from smoking-related diseases. I ended up in the hospital myself from giving treatments to patients who insisted on smoking in the hospital even with oxygen in their rooms. Now my asthma and allergies are controlled with medication, but I have to be on the watch wherever I go to avoid the respitory reactions that occur whenever someone smokes near me. We cannot go to many places we would like because smoking is allowed, and my husband and I will not bring our children to these places. Business owners often tell us that they will not ban smoking because they will lose business, but we know that many people feel as we do, and I do not see a lack of business in any of the places that do not allow smoking now. When we decided we cannot come back to a place because of smoking, we make sure the management knows why we will not be back, and are very hopeful that the antismoking laws will allow us to enjoy the freedoms that smokers do now. It is not just a personal preference to me or my family, but a matter of our health.
My dad and mom smoke and sometimes I have trouble breathing - everytime I try to tell them that it is worse for me to smell the smoke, they don't care. Why do you people smoke? I can't stand the smell and you and even me can die because of your mistakes. Remember, it's never to late to quit. Take a stand and let people know that you don't smoke and you will live longer now!!!
I hate it when I go to a restaurant to have a nice meal and right beside you there is a person smoking! It makes me feel like I'm about to throw up!
Please don't smoke around your kids. It will affect their health for the rest of their lives. I'm an adult child of a previous smoker and can tell you what I believe it did to my health and the health of my sibling. My mother smoked three packs a day until I was around 3 or 4. I believe her smoking caused my siblings recurring bronchitis during our childhood, and that it has something to do with the many allergies I have, my slight asthma and how sick I was as a child. Also, supporting what this web site says about ear tubes, my sibling and I both had ear tubes inserted during our childhood--as our ear troubles were never really taken care of as children, we still struggle with these problems.
One day, my granddaughter Brittany and I, went to eat at our local waffle house. We always sit under the fans so that if someone comes in and smokes, it won't come our way. A couple came in and sat at the booth behind us. They had only been there a couple of minutes and the lady lit up a cigarette and started smoking it. That really upset Brittany. Brittany tapped the lady on the shoulder and told her, "I am asthmatic and that cigarette smoke really bothers me and can cause me to have an asthma attack." The lady told Brittany that she was sorry and she put her cigarette out!!! At this time Brittany was only three years old, she is now five years old. This shows that if you teach a child about their asthma and how serious it is, they will know what to look out for.
I am so stressed with my daughter's father. My daughter has asthma but he still continues to smoke around her. His clothes/apartment/car smell so bad. He refuses to admit that it smells and that he is endangering our child. Has anyone been in this situation? And if so, what did you do? I have doctor's reports showing that each time she comes back from her father's house she is ill. Do I have a charge in court to show that he is harming her?
Samantha from Arizona, I know how you feel.
I know the detrimental health effects of secondhand smoke and am actively working to eliminate smoking in restaurants, bars, private clubs, public meeting places and all places of employment in our town and area. We, in the rest of the country that are slower to this type of activity, appreciate the example you in California have set. It is also useful in determining the steps that are necessary to obtain the results you are fortunate enough to have obtained. Thank you.